How To Understand Your Emotions

Sometimes we may have a hard time understanding ourselves, understanding why we are sad, unhappy, grumpy, upset, or any other feeling we may be having. We may think we know why, but usually we are mystified by it and just hope it passes as we wait it out. We like to view our emotions this way, as transient, with no rhyme or reason, and that way it is not up to us to solve them, or make ourselves feel better. We think we are simply responding to outside sources, and it is not our fault that we feel the way we do. But this couldn't be further from the truth. For although certain moments may cause a reaction in us, usually, underneath it all, we are responding to something far different than what we think. Like if you are sad, do you really think it is a reflection of the moment you are in, and not tied to something in your past? If you are upset, is it simply momentary and will pass, or is there some residue left over that will soon repeat itself? What I mean to say is are you responding to the world or are you feeling what is going on inside of you?

If we like to think our emotions are simply reflections of the world around us, then it is easy to assume that they are not our fault because we are responding to things we cannot control. But if we choose to believe instead that our emotions are reflections of us, then we are left with having to understand ourselves and what we are really going through. For in order to understand our emotions and why we keep having certain ones come up, we need to see why they are truly there. For it is these ones, the emotions that seem to be brought up a lot, that are especially tied to an inner problem or issue we are facing. The wonderful part about realizing this is that we can no longer ignore our symptoms, nor our problems. We can look at them for what they are instead of assuming as we always do that whatever we are feeling has nothing to do with us, that it is someone or something else's fault. That never gets us anywhere, for all our emotions are our own. They belong to us, are created by us, and thus we are choosing to experience them; it is not the other way around. We are not forced to experience sadness because of our predicament. We are not cornered into feeling angry or alone. No, we are experiencing what is a reflection of how not only we are really feeling, but the symptoms of a bigger inner problem than we realize.

Let's say you have a problem with sadness, that it comes up a lot for you. That you experience feeling sad maybe more than you realize, that it in a way sneaks up on you. If you cannot pinpoint why you feel this way, then perhaps this is where you need to look a little deeper into where it is coming from. Sometimes there can be a trigger, a time of day, a certain kind of moment, or even a person that brings this up, that doesn't mean they are what is to blame; it just means you need to deal with what is going on in you. For if you are feeling a certain way, nothing else is to blame but you. What this means is you can't back away from dealing with what is going on, and you cannot assume it is someone else's fault. As soon as we claim our issues and begin dealing with the problems, the clearer we can see what is going on inside of us. Sadness could be coming from so many different things. It could be tied to something that happened in your past, it could be from childhood, it could be a loss much more recent than that. It, in itself, is not to blame. Again, we choose to experience what we want to in life. Sadness then is a choice, believe it or not. As much as some emotions harm us and do not make us feel good, we are still choosing to have them. We bring them up by not letting go of them and the event that triggered or brought them on.

Any emotion we are constantly experiencing is tied to something we are choosing not to let go of, and therefore are choosing to relive it. That is why we always feel this way. It is not that we are stuck with it, we just haven't moved on enough to let it go. How do we do this, how do we let go of something long enough to eliminate the experiencing of the emotions tied to that event or moment? We must first forgive that it occurred, this is especially beneficial, and it is as simple as it sounds. For by forgiving the experience we had, forgiving those involved, forgiving the moment, all of it, we are in a sense releasing it. We are letting go of what was, and what meant so much to us, for it is this choice to hold on that is harming us and causing us to feel this way. We eliminate any emotional instabilities in our life right now by forgiving and letting go of what was. We forgive ourselves for holding onto it so much, for hurting ourselves by not letting it go. When one forgives all, it encompasses so much healing and moving forward in life; it is a very strong tool. We can even forgive ourselves for experiencing the emotion we are going through, for, as we know, it is our choice. We can forgive the day for being so hard, for feeling so hard, for all of it as it is; we can forgive and move on.

When we let go, we cease to experience whatever it is that we have been holding onto. Believe that there is so much power in this because it sets you free from so much. The harder and longer we hold onto to something, the deeper we get into how bad it makes us feel. There is no end to the struggle we face when we choose to hang onto something that hurt us or harmed us. We may know deep down that it does us no good to constantly recall how it felt or feels. We know that what was is over and gone. But you would be surprised at how many people, even with this knowledge, still keep pain so close to their hearts. It seems to be a big hurdle for many people, that of letting go and forgiving. It is almost impossible for some. But know that it is possible. That letting go and forgiving sets you free and eliminates the harm from all your memories. We should not live in pain, in sadness, in grief, and not knowing why we feel so bad. We should all be free of these kinds of things, and be free to live life, open and in peace. Remind yourself the next time that you are feeling bad about things, when you are upset, struggling, or just having a hard time, that it is not you, but how you are feeling on the inside that needs to be looked at. It is something in your past, in you, that you are holding onto. It is something that you need to release, to look at and forgive. For that is what will set you free and enable you to live day to day as you should, without emotions blocking your happiness or hindering you in any way.

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